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Okay i know its a broad topic but heres some background to narrow it down...

how old do you think is the right age to be having sex?

i'm a freshman in high school and a lot of my friends have had sex and those of us who haven'tare considering it.

theres only 2 of us and the other girl plans on doing it with this random senior who hits on her.

im not a slut and dont wanna do it with some random guy but i wanna get it over with!

i mean its not that big of a deal..?

ive heard different things

like you want your first time to be magical and with someone you love da dee da dee da

and ive heard do it with a random person(well not random but like a crush) it hurts like hell its awkward bad and gross your first time

and birth control

i wanna be on it but my mom wont put me on it

any excuses to get her too?SEX.................?I hope people who have sex young get infected with AIDS.SEX.................?
there isnt an age where someone is ready for sex. it is different for every person. some people mature early and can be ready for sex, but some people can be 18 and not mentally or emotionally ready for sex.

being emotionally ready is much more important than being physically ready. although being physically ready is nit, haha.



why would you want to loose your virginity to a random guy? why not find someone you care about. guys think of it as a trophy. so why not give it so a guy you really like instead of some random guy.SEX.................?What do you mean that you "wanna get it over with"? Its not like getting a tooth pulled! You don't need to do it just because other people say they have.

Sex is for adults to worry about and you're not an adult yet. Concentrate on other things, like maybe school and friends?

Sex is supposed to be enjoyed by two people very in love with one another. Do you really want the memory for your whole life of giving it up to some random guy for nothing? You really need to think it over and remember that half of these people you know are probably lying anyway.SEX.................?
I had sex when I was 13. I eventually broke up with the guy, after he convinced me into having an abortion. I still deeply regret it. I have to go to school with the guy as well.



Wait until you find someone you know for sure you want to be with forever. Be patient and make sure you love him. You could end up making the biggest mistake of your life.



If you MUST have sex, at least use birth control and a condom.SEX.................?Lovely, you don't seem to care about your partner in this as long as you get yours.

I can tell you right now from your attitude you are not going to care for it but will lie in order to get good looking popular guys to go to bed with you for bragging right.



Getting it over with is NOT a good reason to have sex with someone you don;t know well or care about. It ruins it.
nazli10 is experience,I see that you're a whore as well but I guess that's how your loser parents raised you to be. How in the world is that cheesy? and you have the nerve to call me immature. Its not cheesy at all only to crass immature whores such as yourself nazli10. Get a lifeSEX.................?
You could say you are having very painful and heavy periods. You could say you want to help with your acne.

Or you could just go to a free clinic and get birth control and condoms.
The right age is whenever you are married



And good for your mom for not giving you the go ahead to make a huge mistake.SEX.................?
herpies herpies do u want herpies otherwise get a condomn
Stop being stupid!!!! Just because the other girls have had sex as a teen, doesn't mean you have to.



You are giving in to peer pressure!!!!!!
Just stay a Virgin,seems like you are just being a follower.
please just wait..because when one of those girls gets pregnant you'll understand trust me.
Chicken salad helps
wait til u r 45
Well, if you're considering having sex because you "wanna get it over with" then you shouldn't. I'm 16 and i have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year and a half, first of all i made him wait a year before i was going to sleep with him, because i wanted to make sure he was really into me. FYI you're first time is really awkward, and for me, it hurt so bad i cried. Sex is about loving someone, and trust me, if the guy doesnt love you before, he sure wont love you after you put out.



I was a freshman once, and high school is intense, drugs and sex are like the two most popular topics...but the best thing to do is just wait, you'll know that its the right time when you meet the right guy. I'm a junior and I'm the only girl out of all my friends that has had sex. Whether you're the only one that has, or the only one that hasn't, you still feel weird.



So overall, just wait, it's better, trust me.

***and for your friend that wants to have sex with that "random senior that hits on her":

SENIORS HIT ON FRESHMAN FOR A REASON!! FRESHMAN WILL DATE ANYTHING THAT WALKS, TALKS, AND TELLS THEM THEY'RE PRETTY!!
Okay, personally I think you are immature and not old enough to have sex. Yeah, you are suppose to have it with someone you love unless you want to have a bad exprience or feel like a slut! That's the truth. Okay...you wanna do it because your friends did it? Yeah, you are immature about this. What has the world gone to? There is not the right age to have sex, but I think they should be at least 16. You should do it what you think is best. If you think having sex with a random guy, go for it...but bad choice I think. Use protection. It is a big deal...what are you talking about? You are going to regret this in the future, your young so it feels like what the hell, but when you are older, you will look back and say, why did I do that? Getting it over with!? No! You want to savor that moment for that someone, really. No joke. Yeah, you hear it all the time...ever wonder that it might be a good decision!? Yeah, first time is magical, when you are doing it when you are ready and love that person. And don't do it with a random crush...just consider yourself a slut and bam. Hm, it doesn't hurt like hell. You need to be prepared or it will hurt like hell. It was a bit of a shock the first time. After that it gets better really. If you don't want to ask your mom about birth control..don't do it. Use protection no matter anyways
Do yourself a favor: just wait. I'm not preaching Christian abstinence, all I'm saying is that you are WAY too young to be having sex. Give yourself some time to develop, and you really should wait until you find a guy you really care about. It will be a lot more special and worthwhile if you do it with someone you really care about. That's what I did.



Don't think of it as "getting it over with", because that's not what it should be about. Sex is a big deal. You should wait until you're older and maturely ready for it and you should be prepared with birth control. The older you are, the more likely you'll appreciate it.
Honestly, if you're asking this question then you are not ready. There really is no "right" age for having sex but you should wait until you are completely ready and TRUST the guy you are having sex with. I know it sounds cheesy and you hear all the adults saying it, but it's so true because you will regret it later on..even if it seems like it isn't a big deal right now. It does hurt the first time and usually is awkward but like I said, if it is with somebody that you trust then he will be gentle and won't rush you.

Well the best way to convince your mom is to tell her your periods are irregular and that you want to fix that. Or you can go to a clinic and they will give you birth control.
dont do it! you may loose yourself for a good guy. i am one of those guys, who will NOT even date a girl, if she has had sex. i havent (18 years old) and i wont till i find the right girl...or i hit 25. which ever comes first. but, i dont want a girl that is more experienced than me, that would just be awkward. i would want it to be that were are both dumb on the subject.

but, if you really want to be on birth control. tell her that, it regulates you period, gives you a less painful period, and it makes women want sex less. it controls your hormones, so that when your hormones spike, you dont have random erge;s to have sex.
Okay, to the first question. You can have sex when your anywhere over sixteen, otherwise its just weird. And sex doesn't hurt if you do other things first. It will only hurt you if you're stressing about it hurting, and aren't properly turned on. As to who to do it with, not a crush. Things will never be the same enough to have a relationship with after. Try a REALLY close guy friend, or just wait.



To the second question, go to planned parenthood, they will give you birth control without your parents ever having to know. I also suggest getting a pap and STD test there, just to be safe. Just remeber that if you're going to do it, you will change emotionally, and you need to have been on the pill for at least a month.
In HS this is a very brought up topic. Im a soph. and know what its like to feel pressured and left out. I personnaly belive sex before marriage is wrong. Today's world is depicting sex as either a daily, normal, indiscreet practice or a nasty dirty thing..



Sex is meant to be beautiful. It is something to tie a husband and wife even closer together. It's a holy practice which needs responsible actions and people involved. You can create life ! You have the ability to make a baby !

Sex is not dirty nor should it be a whispered word however it shouldn't be shouted from roof tops either. Sex is in today's society "Sexy." However Sex is really a practise of bonding and creation.