How should I feel about my girlfriend not wanting to give oral sex?

My girlfriend and I have been dating since April, and are very close. We've had sexual intercourse on numerous occasions, and are very comfortable with each other. Today, the topic of oral sex came up between us, and she made it very clear that she would not be giving me any, possibly ever. I really would like her to be open to it, and to at least try it, but don't want to force anything. Please tell me the best way to handle this situation.How should I feel about my girlfriend not wanting to give oral sex?Respect her choice. Don't pressure her. if she doesn't want to then she just doesn't. And you never know, she might change her mindHow should I feel about my girlfriend not wanting to give oral sex?
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How should I feel about my girlfriend not wanting to give oral sex?There are many women out there that give oral and like it or don't mind it just to please their partner. But you should NEVER force or coerce a woman to give you oral sex. Most women who do not like it or refuse it, associate it with being dirty, used, abused, forced, or whatever. What you have to remember is that our clit is not in our throat so whether we do it or not, we gain little to no pleasure from performing the act and often times feel like whore afterwards. If you absolutely must have a girl go down on you, then you need to break off the relationship and find someone who is willing to do it for you. If you love her, then live without it and be grateful that you have a girl in the first place.How should I feel about my girlfriend not wanting to give oral sex?
If you love her, then it should not matter whether or not she gives you oral sex. Some women are just not comfortable with it and you should understand this. You could talk to her and see why she doesn't want to give you oral sex. Whether it's to due with hygiene, not knowing what to do or simply that she does not like giving it. If you can't resolve the problem then you'll just have to forget about it. There are plenty of other things you can be doing anyway, it's not the end of the world.How should I feel about my girlfriend not wanting to give oral sex?I wouldn't push her on it. I mean if it happens and she does, then she does. But if she doesn't then you have to deal with her decision that she has made. Some people can have sex and when it comes to oral some just can't. So take it slow and don't ask if it happens it happens just let it be.
Feel however u wanna feel but respect her decision. How open are you to giving HER oral sex?How should I feel about my girlfriend not wanting to give oral sex?
Do not push it. You're being selfish on your part. I understand you are a male, but sex isn't everything.
Don't push it- she obviously doesn't want to. That's disgustingHow should I feel about my girlfriend not wanting to give oral sex?
Most people will say that you should respect her wishes. By this, they mean that you shouldn't keep raising the issue with her, hoping that she will eventually relent.



I agree, don't keep raising the issue with her. But rather than staying in a relationship that's going to prove unsatisfactory, you should break up with her. Sex matters. Staying in a relationship with someone who really doesn't feel that it's important to try to please you sexually is wasting your time and her time. If you think a breakup would be painful after having been involved for 6 months, think what it will be like if this relationship goes on for a year, or 3 years, or 5 years.



You should be looking for a partner who is ggg (good in bed, giving, and game). Of course, you need to give as good as you get. If you're not going to be ggg yourself, then you can't expect to have a partner who's ggg.



It's possible, perhaps even probable, that if you stayed together, she would come around on her own, but it seems unlikely that she's going to change from being so opposed to oral sex to becoming enthusiastic about it. More likely, if she agrees to give you oral, it will be infrequent and she will make it seem like it's a huge sacrifice.



As to those who say that it's selfish of you to want your gf to give you oral sex when she doesn't want to, the really selfish thing to do in this relationship would be to let the relationship continue until at some point, you're tired of a partner who asks for your love but won't give you regular head, because she has some silly notion that it would be gross and disgusting. (Having said this, I understand that this is the easiest thing to do, and therefore what you're most likely to do.)



But do you think you'd be satisfied if you got head only once a year, such as on Steak and BJ Day? I doubt it. Find yourself another gf before then. Break up today. Start looking for a new gf tonight.

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